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Tuesday, June 08, 2004



This is the first time that I have come to your site, having found a link from an awesome pro-choice website for young mums.

I just want to say "Thank you,"
for caring about the realities of women's lives,
for providing a vital service which leaves you vulnerable to judgement and harassment to those who want to take away women's choices
for having this weblog
for your sensitivity and kindness
for your expertise


jake, will you feel that you have failed as a father if your "girls" live lives of misery and pain because they have been taught that their own bodies belong to someone other than themselves? would your family have continued to love and support your sisters if they had made different choices?
i know of many women who have chosen abortion for many different reasons, and i would not presume to judge any of them.
i do not know the specifics of your group's politics, but i would assume that you wish to make abortion illegal, and that is where my problem arises. you may believe whatever you wish about God and abortion; you may teach your daughters whatever you wish. however, i will not let your beliefs dictate my actions and my conscience. nor will i stand idly by while you attempt to make your faith and beliefs the law of my land or my body.
you continue to speak of women who have abortions as "girls", which bothers me tremendously. we are not girls who need a father (you or God-the-father) to tell us what we "really want" or what we should believe. we are WOMEN who are making the best decisions we can, in accordance with our own beliefs and consciences. i believe this word choice is indicative of your general attitude, and it really undermines your position. i grew up in the catholic church -- i've heard all your arguments before, and guess what, this woman doesn't believe what you are preaching.
i don't get to make laws to ensure that your daughters are exposed to my values, and you don't get to make laws about my body. the difference between us is that i have no interest in dictating what you or your daughters believe.


I have been battling infertility for 10 years. I have had 7 miscarriages and never had a live birth. I have adopted 2 little girls. I want to thank you for being so sensitive and caring to women who have been struggling with infertility. Infertility is something not many will ever understand unless they have lived it. Not many people in the medical community go out of their way to offer support and comfort to someone who has been down that road....thank you for being so wonderful to this woman.


just to counter "jake's" post, i want to thank you for the work that you do. if it wasn't for women like you . . .
i had an abortion 4 years ago, and i have never regetted it. i made the right choice for me and for my family. yes, my family, jake. not all WOMEN who have abortions are "girls". you just probably have more success with girls, who may be less sure of themselves and their right to make choices for their own life.
i have been pregnant three times. i have two children.
i would not be around to mother the children that i have if i had not chosen to have an abortion. so i chose life -- i chose MY life, and the life of my daughters.


Ugh...I'm sure your children appreciate all the wonderful things you yell at these poor girls and the lovely pictures you show them. Nice way to parent.

I find you to be extremely arrogant. How dare you think that your opinion can change anyone's mind. The decision to terminate a pregnancy is not decided while getting your nails done. It involves soul searching that I'm sure you are incapable of.

You have never and will never experience an unwanted pregnancy. You are a man.

These poor girls have made the hardest decision of their lives and you stand on the sidewalk judging them.

So, you've "saved" 24 children. Are you still involved in their lives? Are you helping their mothers in their situations? Have you offered financial assitance, a room in your home, a bag of diapers? I doubt it.

What you are doing is awful. How righteous and judmental of you.

I hope your daughter never gets pregnant at 13. Oh...impossible...right? Won't happen to me...

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