The little news item in today's paper about the parents who hogtied their daughter to drag her off to an abortion clinic was missing an essential piece of information: No clinic would do an abortion on a woman who said, "My parents forced me to be here," much less a young woman who was literally threatened. I am pretty sure even the worst clinics who don't provide counseling, who have an assembly line approach, etc etc would not have done this patient. Who could force her to sign a consent, give a urine sample, walk to the surgical room? It drives me nuts that the media assumes that this kid was "saved" because she managed to get to a cell phone-- do they mean this to be a parallel story to the 14 year old who was abducted and buried alive, who managed to text message her parents and alert the police to her whereabouts???
The other interesting piece is that with all this parental rights legislation that requires parents to be involved, to consent to an abortion --but not a continuing pregnancy-- no where does anyone mention that most parents would be in favor of an abortion, not against it, for their daughter. Another example of the total absence of real life experience in crafting legislation, in the media, and in public opinion.
Some of the worst situations arise around unintended pregnancies, especially among teenagers. The teens often want to do the opposite of what their parents want. The parents belatedly feel a need to control. It's a miracle when there is any meeting of the minds, but of course, that is the norm, not the exception. The folks in this story are EXTREME PARENTS but their tale is everyday fare in our clinic. Desperate parents watching a train wreck. Desperate children trying to get out from under their parents' control. A recipe for disaster which, somehow, most parents and kids manage to avoid, unfortunately without a lot of support.
Bless em all.