once of the most striking aspects of any clinic worker's experience is that on any given day anywhere from 25-50% of the patients will start out telling the counselor how they never believed in abortion until they were in the situation that caused them to look at it differently. many will say that they just didn't believe women needed to choose abortion when they could just as easily choose adoption. still others will tell of going with their catholic school to demonstrations in washington, d.c., protesting at their local abortion clinic with their protestant or fundamentalist church, or going, sometimes with their mom, to various anti-abortion events.
but then, suddenly when they are forced to confront a pregnancy that cannot continue, they are at first disbelieving that it could happen to them, then disbelieving of themselves that they are considering abortion. how can that be? it throws them for a loop, let me tell you.
again this past saturday i spoke with a woman who told me that she was ashamed that she had made judgements about other women, that even though she was upset that she was choosing abortion, at the same time she knew it was the right decision for her.
but why, i wonder, is there such a disconnect? why do so many women think that they are against abortion but then have one when they find themselves to be pregnant at a time that they feel they cannot be the kind of parent they want to be?
in other countries where there is not so much anti-abortion rhetoric and protest, women seem to do better, to have less guilt about their choices. this fact has been proven by numerous studies.
as we approach the anniversary date of the roe vs wade decision which declared that the woman and her doctor should be the only ones to make the decision, we seem to have moved away from that thought at the same time that abortion numbers are creeping up again. yet the anti-abortion folks are louder than before.
it's hard to make sense of it, isn't it, if you are the one who is pregnant, didn't mean to be. you know what's right in your case, but it may not be what you thought you'd choose. you never know....