although i have worked in an abortion clinic for decades, i consider myself very pro-life---meaning that i honor and respect the life of the woman and also the life/potential life of the fetus. so i was pretty disturbed when a read about a case that is coming to court in the state of pennsyulvania. it seems as though pa has no laws regarding surrogate mothering. so, if you can believe it, according to the paper, here's the deal: a single man, along with his fiancee went to surrogate mother.com in the state of indiana and located a woman in pa to bear the fertilized eggs for him to have a biological child. three eggs were implanted with a 6% chance of all three making it through. well, all three made it.
the biological dad, along with fiancee, came to see the three in the hospital when they were born, but declined to take them home because he and his fiancee "already had plans for thanksgiving and the holidays". well, surrogate mom, after not hearing from bio dad, took the babies home rather than just leaving them there. she and her husband have been raising them along with their other three kids. now bio dad has re-appeared in the picture deciding he and fiancee want to take them home now.
hey, bio dad, these babies were born in NOVEMBER and you still haven't even named them! how can this be? surrogate mom is refusing to give them up now--she says she has been raising them, loves them and they are now part of the family. bio dad says they are his because he donated the sperm. fiancee has no standing because the eggs were not hers. the egg donator gave them on the condition that she have no legal standing over them at all. so bio dad seems to have the only bio connection to them. but what if he is not really fit to be a father? and how do we know if he is or isn't?
it suddenly becomes oh so clear why states must have laws to protect these children. otherwise, they have no rights. and doesn't it seem as though there ought to be some screening about appropriateness for these procedures? bio dad says "hey, no other bio parent needs to be screened before "donating" sperm so why should i have been. "
this whole unsavory business seems to me so disrespectful of life. these three babies are living human beings. let's all hope that they end up in the home that will be the most loving and safe for them. they are not even 6 months old and need so much care and nurturing.
and may the legislature quickly take steps to prevent this from happening ever again!
as you can see, i posted this under abortion politics because it seems as though this is related, but in reverse. most of the women who have abortions do so because they realize that this is not the right time in their lives to offer to a child what they feel a child deserves. and, although i could be totally wrong here, it seems as though bio dad is all about himself......